The process of getting divorced is relatively straight forward with the introduction of ‘No Fault Divorce’ and takes a between 6 and 7 months.

However, running in parallel you will need to agree the split of the finances (the Financial Consent Order) and potentially, children under 18 arrangements, if you have any.

These later two can involve significant legal costs and, even if things start amicably, very often end in acrimony, more often than not by the lawyers. Both of these can be avoided or reduced.

I can help reduce the cost of divorce using solicitors and reduce the amount of potential acrimony.

Separation or divorce is one of life’s most emotionally and practically challenging transitions. It can bring a deep sense of loss, uncertainty about the future, and the need to rebuild identity, confidence, and daily routines.

Whether the ending was mutual or unexpected, the emotional toll, logistical decisions, and lifestyle changes can feel overwhelming. Starting over doesn’t mean the end of the world - worries about finances, friends, finding a new partner, living arrangements etc,- are all very common and can be worked through.

I can work with you to deal with the challenges of starting a new chapter in your live leading to a fulfilling future.

This initial stage often feels surreal. Even if the breakup was expected, many people experience disbelief, numbness, or a sense of detachment. It can be hard to accept the finality of the relationship or to imagine life beyond it.

Common signs:

Emotional numbness or confusion

Difficulty concentrating or making decisions

Wanting to hold on to hope of reconciliation

As the reality sets in, strong emotions often surface. These may include sadness, anger, guilt, resentment, or shame. It’s a painful stage but also an important part of emotional processing and acceptance that things will be different.

Common signs:

Feeling betrayed, rejected, or abandoned

Waves of sadness, crying spells, or emotional outbursts

Blaming oneself or the former partner

Daily life begins to take shape again. There are often many practical challenges to navigate—finances, living arrangements, childcare, and social circles. Emotionally, this stage can feel like a rollercoaster.

Common signs:

Managing day-to-day tasks independently

Feeling overwhelmed by decisions and responsibilities

Fluctuating between hope and sadness

This is a turning point. Energy begins to return, self-confidence grows, and a clearer sense of identity starts to emerge. People in this stage start setting new goals, rediscovering personal interests, and creating a vision for the future.

Common signs:

Reconnecting with passions, friends, or hobbies

Setting boundaries and re-establishing values

Taking practical steps toward future goals

Eventually, life feels more stable and fulfilling. There’s often a newfound strength, wisdom, and resilience. Many people find themselves happier and more aligned with who they truly are than before the separation or divorce.

Common signs:

Inner peace and emotional balance

Optimism about the future

Openness to new relationships or opportunities